I had a truly unhappy first marriage. Stuck in Pittsburgh when I yearned to be in NYC, married to a man who vanished for days, who seldom talked and who tomcatted all over town, the end of that marriage came when a strange woman, who just so happened to be his girlfriend of five years, called me up and asked me why I couldn't let go of the man we both loved? Divorce for me was a blessing. After the initial shock and grief, I fell in love--with my new life. I lived in Manhattan, I was a novelist, I could shape my life the way I wanted to. Plus, divorce gave me lots of fodder to write about (Several of my essays are still up at Salon.com) and divorce taught me to refuse to stay in relationships that were just plain toxic (more writing fodder!) I'm happily remarried now, with a son, and when I heard about this new book, Happily Ever After Divorce:Notes of a Joyful Journey by Jessica Bram, I wanted to read it--and talk with the author.